For many years now, I find myself making the same three New Year resolutions: increase the length and depth of my Bible reading, exercise more, and become a vegetarian. Equally, I found myself making excuses as to why I couldn’t meet my goals, especially that last one. I’d start off strong, but it all went downhill by March. In addition, since becoming a mom, I continually resolve to be a better parent — but that is not something I can just shrug off like a slice of tofu.
However, I recently read something that will forever change my future resolutions. It was a simple list with the following: Being vs. Doing, Hearing vs. Listening, Connecting vs. Participating, Knowledge vs. Understanding, and Intentional vs. Habitual. That was it. That is what I was looking for all of these years. It was not necessarily the almost impossible task of changing. It was about refocusing on what was important, and, THAT, I could do.
So what does this look like for me?
Being vs. Doing: Enjoy the moment instead of just seeing it as an activity on a long to-do list.
Hearing vs. Listening: Actively communicating helps me focus on what is being said, not just going through the “uh-huh” motions as I continue my own train of thought.
Connecting vs. Participating: Do any activity because I want to, not because I have to.
Knowledge vs. Understanding: Don’t just tell about it. Show it.
Intentional vs. Habitual: Go beyond just the daily routine. Do more than just get by.
As the school year traditionally comes to a midway point around this time of year, something will always come up. There will always be an excuse. But, if I can’t change, then the least I can do is to start by refocusing. What do you want to accomplish?