Encouraging the Struggling Child

 

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Is your child stressed and discouraged with a subject at school? Does he display anger because of an annoying sibling at home? Are you tired and frustrated because the child is upset and disrespectful? Is it time for a “consequence” for that “bad attitude”?

Don’t miss this precious opportunity given to train and empower your child with Scripture promised in His Word, “Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted. Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ, Galatians 6:1,2.

How do you apply this to an out-of-control child? Instead of threats or punishment, put your arm around your young struggler and sympathize with his struggles to have a better attitude, then pray a blessing that fits his case—one like this: “Bless (name) who has been learning Holy Scriptures all (her/his) life, and that these Scriptures are making (him/her) ‘wise unto salvation,’ 2 Timothy 3:15. Thank you for making ______ perfect in You.”

Or, praise God aloud for His promise for the perfect mind of Jesus in place of any self-oriented thoughts: Thank Him that “Now unto Him that is able to keep (name) from falling, and to present (him, her) faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy,” Jude 24.

One mother realized she was confusing disobedience with frustration because her son did not handle himself one day, under stress. After applying the above principles, the next day she said, “I cannot express how grateful I am. Every day I realize another aspect of this truth. It changes our relationships at home and my heart every time I come beside and offer comfort, scripture, blessings, and prayer.”

Author: Ellen Dana, Moore Home Schooling. Ellen is the educational director at Moore Academy. She enjoys helping families around the world to successfully homeschool their children. She strives to carefully and responsibly continue promoting a balanced educational effort with individualized curriculum planning and surveillance of enrolled families’ practice in using the Moore Formula type of education avidly taught by the Moores.

Bless Your Child

Is your child stressed and discouraged with a subject at school? Does he display anger because of an annoying sibling at home?

Are you tired and frustrated because the child is upset and disrespectful?  Is it time for a “consequence” for that “bad attitude”?

Don’t miss this precious opportunity given to train and empower your child with Scripture promised in His Word, “Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.  Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.” (Galatians 6:1,2)

How do you apply this to an out-of-control child? Instead of threats or punishment, put your arm around your young struggler and sympathize with his struggles to have a better attitude, then pray a blessing that fits his  case—one like this: “Bless (name) who has been learning Holy Scriptures all (her/his) life, and that these Scriptures are making (him/her) wise unto salvation.(2 Timothy 3:15) Thank you for making ______ perfect in You.”

Or, praise God aloud for His promise for the perfect mind of Jesus in place of any self-oriented thoughts: Thank Him that “Now unto Him that is able to keep (name) from falling, and to present (him, her) faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy.”  Jude 24

One mother realized  she was confusing disobedience with frustration because her son did not handle himself one day, under stress. After applying the above principles, the next day she said, “I cannot express how grateful I am.  Every day I realize another aspect of this truth.  It changes our relationships at home and my heart every time I come beside and offer comfort, scripture, blessings, and prayer.”

By Ellen Dana

Ellen Dana the Educational Director at Moore Academy. She enjoys helping families around the world to successfully homeschool their children. She strives to carefully and responsibly continue promoting a balanced educational effort with individualized curriculum planning and surveillance of enrolled families’ practice in using the Moore Formula type of education avidly taught by the Moores.

Socialize the Children in Your Homes

Considerations at the End of Time With “Essential Questions”. Lifted from the book, Ultimate Education by Ellen Dana

A craze is in the world—a bent to socialize and immerse our children in everything from violin lessons, to drama and ice skating. New ones emerge almost every week. Judge for yourself where that bent is headed. Principles in quotes below, are extracted at random from an old book with an up-to-date message, a message for end-time people. We are much closer to the end of time than when it was written over 100 years ago, making it of double importance. The book is Child Guidance, by an author well known in her day and whose publications keep on blessing many Christian homes.

First we should ask a modern “Essential Question.” The worldly educators believe they have something new and innovative, in these thought-provoking questions, but as a Christian…

I would define Essential Questions as “The questions that point the way into fellowship with our heavenly Father and fulfill the deepest longing of our spiritual lives.”

We also need to remember that it was on lack of trust that Eve succumbed to the serpent in the garden, buying the strong intimations of the Adversary that “God is holding out on you. You’ll be much smarter when you eat of the tree of knowledge of good and evil.”

We need to ask our own “essential questions,” but not from the same mindset as those educators in today’s secular systems who must find substitutes for godly education.

“Fathers and mothers, in full assurance of faith plead with your sons and daughters. Let them not hear one impatient word from your lips….” p 476

Moore Academy Essential Question: How will the children hear patient words if they are continually gone from the home? If they are not hearing patient words at home, what can you do about it?

  • “Fathers and mothers who have in various ways indulged your children to their hurt, God desires you to redeem the time. Take heed while it is called today.” P 476

Moore Academy Essential Question: If parents 100 years ago needed to redeem the time, what about today?

  • “Pray much more than you do. Lovingly, tenderly, teach your children to come to God as their heavenly Father. By your example teach them self-control and helpfulness. Tell them that Christ lived not to please Himself.” P 478

Moore Academy Essential Question: How will they see an example in you if they aren’t there to see it? Whose example will they be observing and how much control will you have in that situation if they are not learning from you in the home?

  • “It costs something to bring children up in the way of God. It costs a mother’s tears and a father’s prayers. It calls for unflagging effort, for patient instruction, here a little and there a little. But this work pays. Parents can thus build around their children bulwarks which will preserve them from the evil that is flooding our world. p 479

Moore Academy Essential Question: Are you paying for the right kind of lessons? What spiritual lessons will you teach “here a little and there a little” while the child is gone to a group class or event aimed at caring for his supposed need for socialization or early development of skills, urgently pressed by “significant others”?

  • “Teach your children that the heart must be trained to self-control and self-denial. The motives of the life must be in harmony with the law of God.” p 558

Moore Academy Essential Question: Would you know whether your children have self-control and whether they deny themselves if they are not often near you, working with you, studying with you, learning at your knee?

  • “In the solemn assembly of the last day, in the hearing of the universe, will be read the reason of the condemnation of the sinner. For the first time parents will learn what has been the secret life of their children.” p 560

Moore Academy Essential Question: Would you not rather know now what the secrets are that may keep your children from living in precious fellowship with Jesus? Now is the time to work, pray and study with your children, putting a hedge about them so they begin now to enjoy sweet fellowship with Christ. This is not to escape the fires of the last days for it is not a “fire escape,” but a road to glorious moment-by-moment living in Christ. They will then also be able to meet the King of the Universe when He comes in glory. Every moment is precious time!

Moore Academy Essential Question: Am I personally learning at the feet of Jesus how to be completely submissive to Him so that He can work out His will in my life and in the life of my child?

Read the book* for yourself and ask yourself the questions. No more time is left to think of “business as usual.”

Quotes from Child Guidance* by E. White, A book greatly beloved by Dr. Moore and his wife, available at Moore Academy and Adventist Book Centers.
Ellen Dana the Educational Director at Moore Academy. She enjoys helping families around the world to successfully homeschool their children. She strives to carefully and responsibly continue promoting a balanced educational effort with individualized curriculum planning and surveillance of enrolled families’ practice in using the Moore Formula type of education avidly taught by the Moores.

Moore Formula Targets High Achievers

 

Ellen Dana is our guest blog author today.

Since 1983 we have been often asked “shall I hold my child back from learning?” because this child did not adhere to the picture given of a pushed and frustrated 6- or 7-year-old, clearly not able to sit down with books to struggle doing a task his brain could not encompass. Besides, he was not ready to give up his self-imposed Lego building projects. Is the Moore Formula only for the strugglers? It is for all learners! Remember, it is individualized, geared to each kind of learner.

First we must look at academic learning—all those subjects that school educators insist must be taught. We can divide them into two groups: skill subject are mainly reading, writing, math or the “three R’s”. Everything else does not demand acquiring learning skills at many levels for the student to advance to the next level. Nature study, or “science,” for example, can be emphasized and enjoyed by a 3 or 4-year-old, and may begin simply and without stress to 3 or 4-year-olds, swinging in a hammock in his own back yard! Social studies may begin with cultural studies spurred with mission stories at Sabbath School, or the continued story of Kado (used copies available on Amazon) (a great cultural story from India, or Sharna of Rocky Bay who lived a very different cultural lifestle in a fishing village. Both stories possess the added value of questions answered about the mysteries of living for Jesus.)

Moore Formula Learning at the primary level is a developmental journey where the student is not expected to have the 3 R’s pushed on him. The preparation for these subjects may go on all the time even while someone reads aloud to the student. An occasional recorded story can help when parents need a reprieve or an older sibling needs to read easy material with a reason for doing so. If you will think about the various things a true story is teaching and learn to categorize these overall learning values, it will help you view reading aloud to the little child eager to hear one more story, with a more positive attitude. Keep a chart if you must for awhile and practice checking off the various subjects that were taught that day. You might find your children may have learned reading skills (unconsciously? By all those special emphasis words you said with greater force and power) social studies, history, and Bible all in that one book.

Perhaps you and your husband took your children on a special “field trip” on Sunday to a nature preserve—today with the children, you will categorize or sequence the photos taken the day before. This is a great review and recognition of God’s organizing plan, and “test” of the names of the birds or animals seen. To the child it is simply great together time with mom and they are usually enthralled to recognize certain “critters,” again. They might even make a little book of those critters complete with copies of the photos in the right places.

So much for the majority of children who easily fall in the “late blooming” category. Now, What about that little “early reader”, eager beaver child who begins to read despite your desire to teach the Moore Formula way? Let me ask you a question; because he can read, does that mean he should read, and even encouraged to do so as long each day as possible?

Think for a minute; surely you have seen a few eager-beavers scholars in your day complete with their sturdy little glasses! Are the glasses for effect? –to announce that this is the world’s next genius? The Optometric world would have you know that the incidents of near sightedness in young children increased as school-entrance age was lowered–significantly! Why? Because these still-developing youngsters were not limited in using near-vision. Developing eyes need lots of distance vision, one reason active outdoor play is so important for growing bodies.

Let me say it again, education the Moore Formula way is simply common sense and heavenly-inspired learning. All the little children should spend lots of time working closely with mom learning to cooperate in caring for the home, letting him know how important he is as you rely on him to carry out certain tasks, and helping dad with the more manly upkeep of the home.

I know you want him to be a good student; but remember this saying, When you want to teach your child to be a diligent student, teach him to do physical work with all diligence!

Keep reading aloud—to your visually driven child, for even your eager beaver still needs to continue strengthening his auditory learning development, noticing your expression, how you read with commas, questions and period evident, plus hearing the pathos in your voice over touching scenes portrayed. Besides reading of places, other historical times, cultures, people who stood for Jesus and acted on Christian principles, the student who reads well or not at all, will both alike love arts and crafts. Keep that part of your school alive to develop fine motor skills, love of beauty, color and personal expression. Recognize those values and to log them so you really see how you have been having “school.” And know that a good art project is really a “written report,” with as much value as the 250 or 500 word, researched product. If you help them follow the theme of the stories read, so much the better, like building a wigwam when studying Indians, either outdoors or at the table with picked-up sticks, or even the same arrangement to provide a trellis for the climbing beans just planted. Include learning Bible verses, and of hymns. Faithfully lead him to Jesus when the trials overcome this inexperienced, not yet baptized young student. You will help him form habits of thought and feelings, preparing him to live happily within his future earthly home and ultimately heaven’s mansions.

Ellen Dana the Educational Director at Moore Academy. She enjoys helping families around the world to successfully homeschool their children. She strives to carefully and responsibly continue promoting a balanced educational effort with individualized curriculum planning and surveillance of enrolled families’ practice in using the Moore Formula type of education avidly taught by the Moores.

What Kind of Seeds are We Planting?

The amount of words in print in a child’s student years is rivaled only by the printing press, a public library or a newspaper office. Isolated, a word holds limited meaning, while stringing words into phrases and sentences contains the power to alienate friends, encourage a hurting heart or begin a lucrative business. Especially for children, who tend to believe anything printed, the prospect is awesome.

The great Master Teacher told a story one day – a parable rich with meaning. While His hearers watched a farmer cast seed into the ground, Jesus interpreted the symbols of the story. The ground is the heart of the hearers. Parents who understand that truth seeks to develop hearts eager to learn, knowing it is useless to force instruction on an unready, unreceptive mind. But our focus here is on the seed. That seed, He said, is the Word of God.

Consider the seed you hold in your hand at planting time. Brown, drab, small – apparently dead. For months it has lain unchanged in a brightly colored packet. By faith, you place it in the ground, apparently throwing it away. What happens there? The germ of life, hidden at one point only as the drab brown seed by our marvelous Creator, nurtured by moist warming soil and water, receives a flash of electricity and a miracle begins. The seed springs to vigorous life, and produces a tiny shoot thrust downward to become the root, while another shoot is thrust upward toward the light.

Even as the seed is the word, so is the Word in the germs of truth, in the seed.  What kinds of words, what kinds of seeds are we planting in the fertile, moist soul of the boys and girls who depend on us not only for a roof over their heads but for the educational foundation to prepare them for life on this planet and then for a recreated world? We would not dream of planting degerminated corn seed in our gardens; are we fooling ourselves into thinking that the words of unconverted men will contain the precious germ that will spring to life when touched by the miraculous spark from heaven, then produce flourishing growth in the lives of our children?

Four young men were taken captive to Babylon long years ago -– Daniel and his three friends. They were not the only ones, but we are not told the names of the rest. Why do we know about Daniel, Shadrach, Meshack and Abednego, but none of the others? The answer is awesome to consider. These four young men evidently received a superior education as boys, an education that taught them to think, an education based on God’s Word – total truth – the seed with the germ intact. How else would you explain four boys who knew ten times more than their teachers? Truth was taught to them in simple surroundings, likely by parents who loved God supremely and encouraged their boys to apply their hearts to wisdom from the scriptures rather than the Greek “classics” and other trivia of the day. Their keen minds literally exploded into wisdom that left the PhDs of Babylon, as well as their classmates, trailing in the dust. Yes, their superior physical diet played its part as well. A diet rich in whole grains, vegetables and legumes rather than degerminated, sugared, worthless calories.

Occasionally we “overhear” remarks in person or on email, stated by those who appreciate instruction from the Moore Foundation. “I don’t agree with Moores in everything, but most,” is one occasional comment. We know what one of those issues is – “What shall we read?!” We know we can’t “please all the people all of the time,” nor will everyone totally agree with what Moore Academy advocate, or even Raymond and Dorothy Moore put in print. However, we suggest that you as a parent make some careful considerations. How much of those seeds in your hand will you plant in your garden? Will you clip the germ from the rest of the seed? How much of the grain will you grind into flour to make your bread? Most important of all, will you place before your children, or allow them to read, worthwhile seed – seed that contains the germ of life to catch the electric current from heaven?

Your answer may make the difference in your children. They may be walking encyclopedias who can test to the max and receive impressive scholarships to the best universities. Or, they may use what they know as facts, then build with wisdom from God, rising above some of the best scholars who will baffle the world and secure a place in God’s list of who’s who. Turn from the chaff that the world has to offer, and insist on only the best seed, containing the full germ of life. Return to the Word, the Creator, God who is life itself on His throne and in His printed communication to man. The results will amaze you – guaranteed.

By Ellen Dana, Moore Academy

Ellen Dana the Educational Director at Moore Academy. She enjoys helping families around the world to successfully homeschool their children. She strives to carefully and responsibly continue promoting a balanced educational effort with individualized curriculum planning and surveillance of enrolled families’ practice in using the Moore Formula type of education avidly taught by the Moores.

Printed in the Moore Report International several years ago.