Does God care about autism? “You may not think so” is the first thought that may come to mind! “Why me?” you may ask. This journey has definitely gotten me to think more and more about how God really cares.
I can relate. In a Seventh-day Adventist church, you as a mom may not feel accepted because someone may stare or a negative remark may be spoken…until you get to the point that you want to go home, never to return. Oh, how I have experienced that when I would be in the children’s room at a church I used to attend; my husband and I would love being in the children’s room, but it wasn’t a sensory room per say for our son to be calm enough. However, my husband would take Adam alone to try to get him calm in the sanctuary, leaving my daughter with me in the children’s room. Sometimes it worked and sometimes not. There was one time when my husband returned to the room and told me that a member close by him and Adam had told him to take our son outside because she couldn’t hear what was being said up front. We felt sad and just wanted to leave. How else could she have said it? Or, could she herself have moved, I thought. We moved on, left it alone, and left it to Jesus to give us a lesson to learn.
As I thought about the text John 17:3, it became clearer to my mind about three months ago. God wants to reveal himself in everyone by his son, Jesus. But, as a Christian mom with an autistic child, the task becomes even harder to get that connection started. I first needed to join myself with Him to know more about Him in His words given by His Son, His spokesman.
Parents with these children are the only spokesman they have, especially if one is non-verbal. We need to be so “plugged in” to God that Jesus, who is like our “electricity,” will help to keep the light burning once it’s lit.
Once I got myself plugged in correctly by having more time with Jesus in the morning, I was able to ignore hearing the negative responses or misunderstand notions, and ask Jesus to help me lead my son in the direction he needed to go. I came to realize that seeking to get him into a traditional Adventist church was not what I should be doing, especially as my beliefs were shifting via my studying time with my husband.
Our connection to God and to Jesus was growing and is growing in a way that we believe that God wants us to be. So, sitting in the pews as we used to do is not really a major issue anymore. We have come to the point in our life that we homechurch, and currently worship with another couple if they are available to come over to our house.
If God cares for the small sparrow, how can he not care for autism? Although this blog is trying to reach out to all families with the autism disorder, because His love is so BIG, it reaches all disorders.
Along with God’s words for comfort and hope, Steps to Christ, and Counsel on Diets and Foods, one secular book caught my attention that I love. The author is Kelly Langston, a marketing consultant and autism activist. Here is a picture of her book.
Here is the message God has for us as parents.
Your child is greatly loved by God.
Your child is greatly valued by God.
God has a wonderful purpose for your child’s life,
No less than that of any other child.
“Taste and see that the LORD is good. How happy is the man who takes refuge in Him,” Psalm 34:8.
To see His goodness in me and for my son and daughter, I invested in books that gave me a start in their connection and nearness to Christ.
These were my first investment in plugging in myself and my children to be nearer to Jesus. I can recall about six years ago, every morning writing out their memory verses that are from another book that has all the memory verses to all eight books. I don’t know if they are still in print, but the Spirit of the LORD got them to me at the right time when I needed to get the ball rolling in my children’s spiritual well-being.
With some knowledge and experiences in learning how to pray through scripture, I practiced. They would hear me pray through the scriptures, and we have prayed to someday to be awakened by them praying on their own or saying something or praying a prayer. That would bring a smile to our faces.
Scripture songs have really played a part also in seeing God’s love poured into their hearts. I recall sharing a playlist of Jack Marti’s and the Cadet Sisters from 3ABN, and after the playlist ended, Adam brought his composition book to me in the kitchen and opened a blank page to get me to write in order the ones he requested. Talk about “orderliness” in this mental stage of his young life! I knew right then and there in the kitchen that God was in control and was in communion with him in such a miraculous way. It brought a smile to his face, and both him and his sister were so freely willing to sing from their books with joy every morning. From that day, I still have their composition books and they remember the songs. Sometime they may need my help, but the books are visible for their access.
Promise To Treasure
“Remembering mine affliction and my misery, the wormwood and the gall. My soul hath them still in remembrance, and is humbled in me.” This I recall to my mind; therefore have I hope. It is of the LORD’s mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness.
There is a scripture song that is sung by Esther Mui that I also listen to that says, “For if we died with Him, We shall also live with Him. If we endure, We shall also reign with Him. If we deny Him, He also will deny us. If we are faithless, He remains faithful; He cannot deny Himself.” So, I needed to learn how to be faithful.
We needed to learn to trust and obey the Promise Maker. When we walk with the Lord, In the light of His word, what a glory He sheds on our way! While we do His good will, He abides with us still, and with all who will trust and obey. This is so hard for children with ADD, autism, ODD, etc., to really do if they don’t understand what it means to do it. These conditions look so different and play in so many different ways. We came to realize that if we wanted our children to trust and obey Jesus and our Father, we needed to look within ourselves to see if we are obeying his will, doing what we need to do to be healthy in mind, body, and spirit. We needed to read Counsels on Diets and Foods, and watch videos of what others did in changing their children’s diet. We have now changed to a plant-base diet and eliminated foods that were bringing anxiety attacks and aggression. I was able to get three cookbooks to experiment with, two vegan and one gluten-free, and also find a liquid supplement by Buried Treasure that has helped with Adam’s alertness and awareness.
This hymn is one we would sing over and over again as a reminder to them when we are disciplining them. When they finally “get it,” our hands are also lifted in praise to our Father.
This is when I had a part-time job, and before leaving would spend a moment outside to pray. Here is Adam with his hands lifted while saying the “benediction, just what his Father would say” from back of the hymnal #919, Hebrews 13:20-21: Now the God of peace, that brought again from the dead our Lord Jesus, that great shepherd of the sheep, through the blood of the everlasting covenant, May you perfect in every good work to do his will, working in you that which is wellpleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ; to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen.
More Promises to Treasure
Joy, peace, hope – Romans 15:13
Competence – 2 Corinthians 3:4-5
Caring and blessing – 1 Peter 5:6-7
God is on your side – Deuteronomy 1:27-31
Victory in the battles – Romans 8:37
A life for your child – Deuteronomy 30:19
Power in weakness- 2 Corinthians 12:9
There are more, but I would like for you to get the book by Langston I mentioned above, if you are able to.
There is power in weakness for sure. For He said, in 2 Corinthians 12:9, “My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness.” For eight years now, I can truly say that I have been given grace and strength from the LORD, even within the hardships of the whining, screams, etc.
Here is a recent pic that I took of Adam and Naomi in the early morning, catching them in that time of quietness and time with Jesus!
Below are individual pics of ways we have used the WORD to transform them to become more Christlike.
To know God, have to know His Laws — who He is and what He said. I have found the song The Perfect 10 that they now sing now and again and love.
I love making poster boards. So I had these letters printout from a book I have in teaching autistic children how to read, and wrote out scriptures from a book compilation that I purchased from Rod and Staff.
This poster board was when I searched for scriptures to know GOD, to know Jesus, and to add scriptures to let them know that the Holy Spirit is the manifestation of Jesus.
Philippians 2:5-10 and Philippians 4:8 are other scripture songs that I have taught my children, and Matthew 1:20… this part that begins, “Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost. (Matthew 1:20 is one of the songs from the Desire of all Nations from SonLight).
Making WarBinders was another idea that came to mind, after watching the movie “WarRoom,” and then building two different WarRooms, first in their bedroom and then the lanai.
These books by “ThyWordCreations” have also helped.
There has been several times when the Ten Commandments needed to be reminded in their behavior to bring them back to obedience and correction. So, the booklets are the “Ten Commandments” written out.
These are the Ten Commandments repeated on a gift box.
I see it now that, while I am doing all I can here at home, being inside a church will not draw them nearer to God. It’s the “confidence of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ,” Philippians 1:6.
The Lord has promised good to me (you),
His word my (your) hope secures;
He will my (your) shield and portion be
As long as life endures.
May these words by John Newton, who wrote these words in the song “Amazing Grace,” bring you the assurance that Jesus, and through Him our Father, will do far more than we can ever imagine.
God bless you, and let’s lift up each other in prayer.
Praise Ye the Lord who is worthy to be PRAISED!